My mother used to tell me to “be nice”……be nice to neighbors, classmates, those who needed our help, teachers and my grandma. She expected us to not “be ugly” by talking about people behind their backs or excluding someone just for spite.

I have tried to carry that over to my adult life, but in the music business it is easier said than done. I am kind to those who audition for me, no matter what. I am pleasant to those I work with and try to be nice to my peers. If only others behaved that way!

Recently, I have been “frozen dead” by a person of my musical acquaintance. He doesn’t work in the same genre as I, but our paths occasionally cross. He is talented and I have even recommended him to someone who needed a person of his talent, yet, I am “dead” to him for some reason.

I don’t know why I am being treated this way but I am uncomfortable with spending any time around him. I will have to explain–or give a reasonable “excuse”–the next time I am expected to be. I really don’t want to explain since I have no idea why he is doing this. I thought he was a better person than his spiteful behavior portrays him. I can be the better person by trying to rise above this. Perhaps he will realize that no good can come from this, only hard feelings. And it is on his end, not mine.